Stop the Mom Shaming!

Then there’s us- the ones in the trenches with fresh postpartum moms- and all we have to say is STFU to anyone speaking on behalf of all moms from a place of privilege.

The privilege of an easy pregnancy.
The privilege of a smooth postpartum recovery.
The privilege of no complications for mom or baby.
The privilege of health.
The privilege of no PPD/PPA.
The privilege of a fantastic maternity/paternity leave.
The privilege of sound sleep and easy feedings.
The privilege of feeling a strong bond with your baby.

We promise, if you knew a mom with a baby freshly cut from her abdomen, or one dealing with stitches from a deep 4th degree tear, you wouldn’t say a word about her needing support. So why is it that if a new mom is struggling mentally or emotionally, or a mom is gathering her tools for her postpartum tool belt, it’s okay to be completely dismissive of her experience by making judgement-laced comments about how perfect their own postpartum recovery + baby’s first few months were? It’s passive agressive...at best.

Overnight Newborn Care to the Rescue!

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Postpartum During COVID-19

We’re thrilled to be sharing our first guest blogger- Indianapolis based Courtney Summitt! Together with her husband Ryan, she’s done a ton of work to prepare their hearts, home, and family for their 2nd baby boy during a pandemic. Here’s a look into what they are doing, along with the information they sent to their family for you to use as a guide.

Please give Courtney a warm welcome!

Mother's Day Gift Guide 2020

Mother’s Day is just around the corner! Mothers deserve to be celebrated every year- and even more so this year. Moms have been restructuring and pivoting, all the while comforting her family and dealing with her own worries and fears. Moms are now working from home, homeschooling, isolated from their friends and extended family, in the throes of having a newborn, wiping the tears from disappointed teenagers, and missing their child’s graduation. Being a mom isn’t easy- and being one during a pandemic means Mother’s Day 2020 needs to be EXTRA special!!

The One Where We Pivot

F•R•I•E•N•D•S Fans! Anyone else excited about the Friends Reunion coming to HBO?!

I KNOW!

Could I BE any happier?

What’s my excitement level at you ask? SEVEN. Seven. seven.

If you know me well, then you know I LOVE Friends! My husband and I tuned in every Thursday night- long before on-demand and streaming services existed. Ya know, when you actually had to BE home to press record if you wanted to “tape” a show!

One of the perks of the season of parenthood I’m in is watching the show with my young adult children. They speak fluent Friends references and they send me Friends gifs & memes often- clearly they know their momma’s love language.

Newborn Necessities for Quarantine

There are luxury baby products that FEEL like must-haves because they make life more manageable. Trust us- we get it! There are so many baby items we feel we can’t live without, too. But in the end…we can.

The goal of this list is to help you prepare for life at home with your newborn for 2-4 weeks in social distancing, quarantine or isolation. Many parents are faced with canceling baby showers and they are worried about not having the necessities on hand. Our list isn’t what you might want…but rather what you will need from the eyes of two postpartum doulas.

Girl, Wash Your Hands

Here’s the deal! We want to talk about the elephant in the room sooner rather than later.

And so we’re just going to come right out and say it- Coronavirus or COVID-19. Trust us when we say we don't want to strike fear or panic. But we do want to be realistic about how the potential of the virus spreading could impact the daily lives of our pregnant and new parent friends. As doulas who are in someone else’s home (almost daily these days- no joke) and at the hospital a couple of times per month, we have been watching closely as things unfold. Today, March 6, 2020, the first known case of COVID-19 was confirmed in Indiana- which isn’t a surprise.

The Early Days of Motherhood- What I Wish I’d Known

5 years ago today I woke up to a contraction just before my alarm for work went off. It didn’t feel any different than the Braxton Hicks I had been having for the past several weeks but it was the only one that had woken me up from a dead sleep— so I just knew it was the real thing even though I was only 37 weeks pregnant. I’m thankful for that intuition because no one around me fully grasped that I was in early labor.

5 Step Guide for Teaching Your Newborn Great Sleep Habits

Are you ready for the secret sauce to newborn and infant sleep?

If we had to guess, you might even be ready to buy it in a Costco size bottle. Well, guess what?!—your first bottle is ON US!

Gender Disappointment

Okay, friends- we’re about to get brutally honest here. Are you paying attention?

Here it goes…

It’s okay to hope for a boy or a girl. And it’s okay if you are disappointed when the opposite of what you were dreaming of pops up on the ultrasound screen or after your baby’s sex is announced at the birth. This doesn’t make you a bad parent.

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Let's Talk About Sex...After Baby

After eight installments in our Postpartum Series, we’ve arrived to THE BIG ONE…the one about sex. Talk about vulnerability! This post came out of a mixture of stories/advice from friends, troubles our clients went through, along with our own personal experiences. We are getting REAL, friends.

Like we’ve done a couple of times here on the Embrace the Cape blog, this post comes with a warning- This is unfiltered! Nothing to be ashamed of, but if the topic of sex isn’t your thing, then move right along and we’ll see you back next week!

Fireworks and Babies- Everything You Need to Know

July is here and that means FIREWORKS! Even if July 4th is your favorite holiday, you might be stressing a bit more this year if you have a newborn or little babe. Whether you’re nervous about taking your littles to see them, or you’re anxious about all the neighborhood fireworks that are going to wake your baby over the next couple of weeks, we’re here to help ease your worries with some tips and encouragement.

Postpartum Limbo

You’ve made it through 4 weeks of parenthood! You’re starting to get a little more pep in your step and gaining confidence in this whole having a newborn thing. You’re still not getting much sleep but it’s starting to feel like a new normal- especially since the baby did a longer stretch last night! You basically can conquer the world now... right?

Postpartum Support

Imagine it’s a weekday morning and you’re at home with your little baby. You’re in your favorite chair or coziest spot on the couch and your best friend just came over. Oh, you know the one. They can come over, look right past any disarray, and sit with you making you feel at ease- immediately. They know where your mugs are and easily make their own cup of tea. They see that there are a few dishes in the sink from the night before, so they take care of those too without making a big deal about it.

Baby 2.0

Bringing home baby #2?! We're here to help with some tips about how to prepare your firstborn (aka 1.0) for their newborn sibling (aka 2.0).

Before you jump in, we want you to remember there will be double the tears, double the exhaustion, double the fears...and double the love.

Father's Day Gift Guide

Has Father’s Day totally snuck up on you? We totally get it- and we’re here to help! Our Mother’s Day gift guide was a crowd pleaser and we hope we can do the gentlemen in our lives justice by offering up some amazing gift ideas that will make them feel appreciated.

We don’t have any time to waste so let’s dig deep and really get in the moment. Father’s day isn’t about flashy gifts, but rather recognizing all of the hard work and love a Father puts into his family. Picture them the first time they met their sweet baby, or when they have a snuggly newborn on their chest while watching the game. When they come home from a long day of work but eagerly embrace the chaos of a home filled with toddlers. When he recognizes YOU’VE had a long day and sends you to target to decompress. The men in your life- the ones that raised you, love you, parent with you, and support you- need some extra TLC at times, too.

Just like our past gift guide we are basing our suggestions off of the “Five Love Languages” by Gary Chapman. So take a moment to really think about your mate or the Father in your life, what makes them feel special and loved?

What to Expect When You Bring Your Baby Home

Although we could never cover all of the intricacies of what it’s like to bring home your first baby in one blog, we feel like getting a small glimpse can be greatly beneficial. We have a lot of information to cover so we are going to dive right in with some of our key advice and things to expect in the first days after bringing your baby home

Post-Delivery Firsts

In Part Three of our Postpartum Series, we’re headed up north and talking about what you can expect from the upper part of your body during the first 72 hours post-delivery. This area tends to be the hub for a lot of “firsts” for new moms.

The Moment I Became a Mom - Jordan

So many moments come flooding to my head when I think about this.

I remember so clearly the day leading up to the birth of my first son, Landon. I had literally been daydreaming about his birth during my whole pregnancy and I woke up that morning and just KNEW it was the day that I would meet him.

I Became a Mom Slowly, and Then All At Once- Amy

I vividly remember experiencing a profound aha moment while reading the tearjerker novel, The Fault in Our Stars, in the summer of 2014. One exceptional line in the book blew me away- “I fell in love the way you fall asleep: slowly, and then all at once.”